{"id":1183,"date":"2017-08-23T13:27:00","date_gmt":"2017-08-23T20:27:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/adlibmom.com\/?p=1183"},"modified":"2019-02-22T15:01:19","modified_gmt":"2019-02-22T23:01:19","slug":"teach-obedience-fifth-commandment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/adlibmom.com\/index.php\/2017\/08\/23\/teach-obedience-fifth-commandment\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Teach Obedience With the Fifth Commandment"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Let’s be honest, parenting is hard, very hard. Children don’t come with an instruction manual so as parents have to figure things out on our own. We often times turn to our own parents, friends, counselors, blogs, etc… for help. This is all great because we need support from others, but, we do have a parenting manual, it’s the Bible.<\/p>\n

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The Struggle<\/h3>\n

Obedience is a big struggle in my home. I often struggle with my kids being disrespectful and disobedient. There have been many conversations with friends on what they do to teach this but it wasn’t until I turned to the Bible that I really found my answer in the Fifth Commandment.<\/p>\n

I have known this commandment since I was kid but understanding the layers of it is what has helped me as a parent.<\/p>\n

This is what the Commandment says:<\/p>\n

“Honor your father and mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” Exodus 20:12<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

The first four Commandments teach us how to love and respect God and the fifth through the tenth teaches us how to love and respect man. The fifth Commandment is a building block to the ones after. It starts with a deep respect for our parents and learning what that means.<\/p>\n

As a parent, you have a God given responsibility to exercise authority and to be a leader over your children and your children are called (commanded) to submit and obey to their mother and father.<\/p>\n

“Each of you is to fear (respect) his mother and father. Observe my Sabbaths. I am the LORD your God.” Leviticus 19:3<\/span><\/p>\n

In the verse above it says for children to fear their parents. So what does that mean? It doesn’t mean that they should be afraid of you.  Parents are God’s representatives here on earth. God is supposed to be “feared” and “honored” so since we are to carry out God’s wishes we are to be “feared” and “honored” by our children.<\/p>\n

How Does Obedience Look<\/h3>\n

Is your child being obedient if they do what you ask of them? Yes. But, what if they are grumbling, huffing and puffing, stomping, rolling the eyes, etc… while being obedient? Their action of obeying is correct but their attitude is not showing honor and respect. When this happens it’s a heart issue and that needs to be addressed. This takes lots of practice and do overs. It’s easier to obey than to respect.<\/p>\n

My kids are having a lot of do overs and it wears me down but by doing this I’m being obedient to the Lord.<\/p>\n

“Train up a child in the way he should go; when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6<\/span><\/p>\n

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Along with the fifth Commandment I also use Ephesians 6:1-3,<\/p>\n

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother” – which is the first commandment with a promise – “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”<\/span><\/p>\n

The fifth Commandment is the first commandment with a promise – “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” Our children will enjoy God’s blessings, have his hand upon them, and life will go well if they follow his word. The promise for those who obey the commandments of God are peace, serenity, and a long life.<\/p>\n

I had my daughter write this Bible verse down on a note card because we were having such a problem. I often refer to the verse and tell her to look at her card. It has been a long road but she is finally understanding and getting it.<\/p>\n

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The big picture of this statement is if you disobey and don’t learn respect, life will not go well for you because you don’t respect authority or laws and you may end up in prison or have an early death. Remember, the fifth commandment is a building block to the rest of the commandments which state thou shalt not:<\/p>\n